A “love map” is information you know about someone’s likes and dislikes, hopes and dreams, joys and fears. Much like being sure you have an up-to-date road map, you need to be sure your love map also stays current.
“Know what’s weird? Day by day, nothing seems to change. But pretty soon, everything’s different.” – Bill Watterson
This is a great activity for couples who are beginning their journey together or for those who have experienced a lot throughout their partnership. The activity also opens the door to great conversations with children and grandchildren of all ages. Discuss a question over family dinnertime. You can also have a “love map” conversation throughout a walk.
Answer the questions below about yourself. Then answer the same questions about your partner. Compare your answers. How well do you know each other? Did you learn anything new?
Life Experiences and Memories:
Who is your best friend?
What do you like most about yourself?
What relative did you feel closest to as a child?
What person has had the greatest impact on your life?
If you had a nickname as a child, what was it?
What is your favorite childhood memory?
What song reminds you of your relationship?
What is your favorite memory of an activity, event, or vacation you and your partner share?
Interests and Favorites:
What is your favorite hobby?
What is your favorite sport? Favorite team?
If you could go anywhere, where would you go?
What is your favorite food?
What is your favorite ice cream flavor?
What is your favorite television show? Favorite movie?
Where do you like to go when you need to relax?
Are you a morning person or an evening person?
Do you prefer dinner out or dinner at home?
Do you prefer hugs, gifts, or when your partner says “I love you”?
How do you prefer to spend your free time?
Source: Elevate: Taking Your Relationship to the Next Level developed in collaboration between Auburn University and the University of Georgia.
Is your household’s spending, saving, and sharing on track to support your goals and values? It’s time to revisit those guidelines and expectations. K-State Research and Extension has a helpful resource that can assist you as you answer these questions. It is never too late to take a small step toward stronger financial wellness. For additional assistance or to access more resources, contact your local Post Rock District Office.
We rarely think about our communication with loved ones. However, family communication is very important and determines our relationships with each other, setting the tone for family life. Family communication is not simple. It has many parts. Communication is more than what we say and do. Our messages depend on how we think the other person will react, so we communicate differently with individual members of the family. Each of us has several different communication patterns that develop over time. It depends on who is communicating.
K-State Research and Extension’s, Essential Living Skills: Basic Family Communication is a curriculum that guides participants toward improving everyday communication in their families. This educational program emphasizes skill-building and mindful communication techniques for improving family communication and interaction.
To access the curriculum, visit https://www.bookstore.ksre.ksu.edu/pubs/S134E.pdf. For assistance, using the curriculum to improve your own family communication, and/or to explore ways you might be able to effectively use the curriculum as a teaching tool in a learning environment, contact Nora Rhoades, Family and Youth Development Agent in the Post Rock District.
Join the Post Rock Extension District at the Lebanon Community Library for Family Fun Night! Through playful learning activities, each child and adult will grow and learn together. Activities will be focused on young children ages 0-5 years; however, all children are welcome. Each child must be accompanied by a caring adult throughout the entire program. Questions? Contact the Lebanon Community Library at 785-389-5711. To learn more about this and other upcoming experiences, check out our website at http://www.postrock.k-state.edu/events/.
Everybody experiences both good and bad stress, and we need strategies to cope and manage it in our daily lives.
Nora Rhoades, Post Rock District Family and Youth Development Agent, is featured on Nex-Tech’s Extension Ed Talks discussing stress management. She provides insight about what stress is and how it influences us both positively and negatively. Nora shares practical strategies to improve your wellness through positive stress management. You can also learn about stress management through the K-State Research and Extension resource, Keys to Embracing Aging: Stress Management.
Nora Rhoades, Post Rock District Family and Youth Development Agent, is featured on Nex-Tech’s Extension Ed Talks. She provides insight about coping with tragedy in a world surrounded by a wide variety of technology and digital communication strategies.
Mark your calendars now to attend one of K-State Research and Extension’s “Preserving the Family with Estate Planning” workshops set for two locations in northwest Kansas in February: Phillipsburg and Great Bend.
Thursday, February 22, will be the date for the workshop in Phillipsburg, from 5:30 p.m. to 9:00 p.m. at the Phillips County Fair Building; Monday, February 26, the workshop will be presented in Great Bend, also from 5:30 p.m. to 9:00 p.m. at the Great Bend Recreation Commission – Burnside Room. A meal and materials are included in the $20 registration fee, and family members can attend for an additional $15 each if registered at the same time. Early registration is due February 16th. Meals and materials cannot be guaranteed if registering late.
The Estate Planning workshops will have sessions with attorneys and experts from K-State as well as a Q & A session at the end. Sessions will cover several topics including Getting Started with Estate Planning, Estate Planning Basics, and Farm & Small Business Succession.
For more information go to www.northwest.ksu.edu under “Events” or call the Phillips-Rooks Extension District – Phillipsburg Office at 785-543-6845 or the Cottonwood Extension District – Great Bend Office at 620-793-1910.
Presented by: Doug Beech, Kansas 4-H Foundation Planned Giving Officer
Veteran’s Building Osborne, KS
Explore and understand tools – some familiar, some not – that will allow you to preserve and pass on your values through an estate plan. The program, hosted by the Post Rock Extension District and the Osborne County Community Foundation, will be valuable for those considering making charitable estate gifts and for charities and charity board members interested in learning about these options. Discover complete event details at www.postrock.ksu.edu.